Too often, IEP goals are written with the assumption that neurodivergent students must adapt to neurotypical behaviors. But what if we shifted the focus to honoring their strengths and supporting authentic engagement?

Why Traditional IEP Goals Can Be Harmful

For years, many Individualized Education Program (IEP) goals have been centered around encouraging neurodivergent students to adopt neurotypical behaviors. Goals such as “maintain eye contact during conversations” or “participate in group discussions without fidgeting” may seem helpful on the surface but often disregard the student’s natural communication style and needs.

These types of goals can:

• Encourage masking, leading to emotional exhaustion and burnout.
• Prioritize compliance over comfort, making students feel pressured to suppress their authentic selves.
• Overlook the student’s strengths, focusing instead on perceived deficits.

A neurodiversity-affirming approach to IEPs shifts the focus from conformity to empowerment, self-advocacy, and authentic engagement.

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How to Center IEP Goals on Communication Preferences & Strengths

Rather than pushing students to meet neurotypical standards, neurodiversity-affirming IEP goals should:

• Emphasize self-advocacy so students can express their needs confidently.
• Support multiple modes of communication, including AAC, written responses, and alternative ways of participating.
• Build on student strengths, rather than focusing only on areas of challenge.

Example Shift:

❌ Instead of: “Make eye contact while speaking to peers.”
✅ Try: “Demonstrate active listening in a way that feels comfortable (e.g., looking at the speaker, nodding, or using a verbal cue).”

By reframing goals, educators create a supportive environment where neurodivergent students feel safe, respected, and capable of meaningful engagement.

Examples of Inclusive IEP Goals That Foster Autonomy

Here are some examples of neurodiversity-affirming IEP goals that align with student strengths and autonomy:

✅ Self-Advocacy: The student will identify and communicate their sensory or emotional needs in a way that works for them (e.g., verbal request, gesture, AAC, written note) in at least three different settings.

✅ Flexible Communication: The student will use their preferred method of communication (e.g., verbal, written, AAC) to share ideas with peers during group activities in a way that feels comfortable for them.

✅ Participation on Their Terms: The student will engage in classroom discussions by using a method that works best for them, such as raising a hand or using a whiteboard, to participate small group settings.

✅ Emotional Regulation: The student will independently utilize self-regulation strategies, such as requesting breaks or using sensory supports, to manage overwhelming situations in 4 out of 5 opportunities across 3 consecutive sessions.

These goals focus on empowering the student, rather than forcing them into neurotypical molds.

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How to Involve Student Voices in the Goal-Setting Process

One of the most critical aspects of writing neurodiversity-affirming IEP goals is direct student involvement. When students have a say in their learning journey, they are more likely to feel engaged and supported.

Strategies for Incorporating Student Input:

• Ask for preferences: Depending on your student’s age, involve them in their IEP meetings where they can share their learning preferences and goals.
• Use visual or written surveys: Allow students to select communication methods, accommodations, and strategies that work for them.
• Encourage self-reflection: Help students articulate how they feel about certain goals and whether they align with their authentic needs.

By centering student voices, IEPs become more meaningful, realistic, and effective.

Final Thoughts

Neurodiversity-affirming IEP goals recognize that success isn’t about conformity—it’s about helping students thrive in ways that align with their strengths, needs, and identity. By moving away from outdated, compliance-driven goals and embracing inclusive, student-centered objectives, educators can create a more empowering learning experience for neurodivergent students.

Small shifts in goal-setting can have a profound impact on a student’s self-confidence, well-being, and long-term success. The question to ask is: Are we setting goals that support who our students are, or who we think they should be?