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Everyone has their own opinions
and feelings about things.

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We want to be aware of how often
we are disagreeing.

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If we agree most of the time,

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others will have positive feelings
about us.

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It’s okay to disagree once in a while,

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but too often can make
it seem like we’re arguing,

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or insisting on having our way
all the time.

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Other people might stop
inviting us to do things with them

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if we’re always disagreeing.

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To help you, think about
when it’s likely you’ll get your way

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and when it’s not likely.

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You’re not likely to get your way
when no one agrees with you.

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That’s a time when you should
give up your idea

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and agree with someone else’s.

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We remain calm and friendly
when we’re agreeing to someone else’s way.

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It’s okay to say what you wanted
as you agree to someone else’s idea.

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We never agree to an idea
that’s unkind, hurtful,

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or against the rules.

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In those situations,
we stick to our opinion

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even if we’re the only one
who’s doing the right thing.

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One of the ways we stay enjoyable
to be around

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is agreeing more often
than we disagree with others.

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To do this, we:

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Agree many times
before you disagree one time.

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If no one in a group is agreeing with you,

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it’s probably a good time
to back down on your idea

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and agree with someone else’s idea.

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Agree to other’s ideas
with neutral emotions,

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or friendly words and tones.

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Let’s see how Shay agrees
more than he disagrees.

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Shay: Alright. We should figure out
our Halloween costumes.

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Niko: Definitely! We should go
as something with three characters

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so that we all can go together.

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Andy: Yeah, let’s go
with something scary.

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We can get paint our faces
or put on masks.

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Niko:
Yeah, let’s do it.

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I have a werewolf mask!

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Shay:
Guys, I got it.

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Let’s be a band.

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We could have guitars and spiky hair.

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Niko: I don’t really know
if I have the clothing for a band.

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Andy: Yeah, and I don’t really want
to carry around an instrument.

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Shay:
You guys aren’t listening to me!

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Niko:
No, we are.

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We just don’t really want to be a band.

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It’s no big deal.

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Shay: I’m doing
my own Halloween costume!

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I don’t want to be in your group
or trick or treat with you!

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What happened there?

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Shay had a suggestion,
but others didn’t agree with him.

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Would he have been better off agreeing?

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Let’s see what others are thinking.

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Andy:
It’s hard to hang out with Shay.

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He always disagrees with us.

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Niko: If Shay doesn’t get his way,
he just leaves.

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He misses out on a lot of fun stuff.

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Shay:
I had a better idea for costumes!

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We should do my idea!

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Shay wouldn’t consider a new idea
or listen to what the group wanted.

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This made his friends feel annoyed.

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Now, Shay’s going to miss out
on trick or treating with them.

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What could he have done instead?

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Let’s watch Shay try again.

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Shay: Alright. We should figure out
our Halloween costumes.

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Niko: Definitely! We should go
as something with three characters

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so that we all can go together.

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Andy: Yeah,
let’s go with something scary.

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We can paint our faces or put on masks.

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Niko:
Yeah, let’s do it.

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I have a werewolf mask.

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Shay:
Guys, I got it.

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Let’s be a band.

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We could have guitars and spiky hair…

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Niko: I don’t really know
if I have the clothing for a band.

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Andy: Yeah, and I don’t really want
to carry around an instrument.

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Shay:
No one agrees with my idea.

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I really wanted a band costume.

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I have been disagreeing with them lately.

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If I agree with them,

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I’ll have a group to go
trick or treating with.

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Shay:
Okay, we can be scary costumes.

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Andy:
Awesome!

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Niko: Awesome!
This is going to be so fun.

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Who do you guys want to go as?

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Shay:
I’ll be Dracula.

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Andy:
I’ll be a skeleton.

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Niko:
I’ll be a werewolf!

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Let’s see what others think about Shay now.

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Niko: I can’t wait to go trick or treating
with Shay and Andy.

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Andy:
That was easy to decide!

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I’m glad we all agreed.

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Shay:
I’m glad I agreed with the group.

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Now we’ll have a lot of fun on Halloween.

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That time,
Shay agreed to the group’s plan.

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This kept him in the group so everyone
can have fun trick or treating.

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Andy and Niko had positive
thoughts about Shay

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when he agreed more than he disagreed.

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Even if we don’t get our way,

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it’s important to think about what’s fun
for more people in the group,

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not just us.

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What did we learn?

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If we agree more than we disagree,

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our friends and others
will enjoy being around us.

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Agree many times
before you disagree one time.

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If no one in a group is agreeing with you,

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it’s probably a good time
to back down on your idea

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and agree with someone else’s idea.

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Agree to other’s ideas with neutral emotions,

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or friendly words and tones.