Valentine’s Day usually involves the exchanging of flowers, candy, and gifts between loved ones. It’s a reminder to show appreciation for the important people in our lives, and it’s also a fun reason to have a classroom party in February!
But there are lots of ways to show appreciation beyond the gifts and parties we’re used to. According to Dr. Gary Chapman, the author, speaker, and counselor behind The 5 Love Languages, the best way to show people we care is by first understanding what makes them feel most cared for, loved, and valued.
In his bestselling book, “The 5 Love Languages”, Chapman states that we all give and receive love differently across all of our relationships, whether with our romantic partners, friends, coworkers, or children. Chapman categorizes love languages into five main types: Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch. He believes that although we may identify in some way with all five types, each of us prefers one type over the others. By understanding our own main love language and identifying the love languages of the people in our lives, we have the capacity to better “communicate love well”.
As educators, we can of course learn to apply this concept in our personal lives, but what about in our professional lives? How can we learn to appreciate and value our students in their own, individualized ways?
We can try to determine our students’ love languages through observation over time or through a guided activity like this one:
Once we understand how our students feel most comfortable receiving love and appreciation, we can try to apply that knowledge in the classroom. For example, when a student does well on a project or assignment we could…
Interested in more examples of what this looks like in the classroom? Cambridge University Press has published a great article with practical tips for applying love languages in the classroom.
Although it may feel weird or uncomfortable to initially embrace the idea of love languages in the classroom, when we appreciate students in the way that is most valuable to them, we are simultaneously encouraging both enthusiasm and participation in the classroom. Communicating with students in a way that they best understand can also improve their self-esteem and self-worth.
Happy Valentine’s Day from the Everyday Speech family!
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